Does anyone else have experience with being functional for so long until your not? I'm 40 and it seems like I'm doing worse than I've ever done even though I'm years away from my trauma. I'm not sure if the Pandemic just opened it all up but during that time was I living in an unsafe neighborhood that had construction 24/7, and plenty of triggering elements around.That time was also when I first started getting serious about therapy. I have always been trauma informed via self-help books since a young adult but always struggled to find a non-grad student qualified therapist and really couldn't until a year and a half ago, and it was only through sheer luck I ended up with one. Was diagnosed with C-PTSD 9 years ago from child abuse and then my younger sister getting sex-trafficked when I was in my late twenties. She died from a horrible drug addiction where I was battling my entire dysfunctional family in the hospitals because she had 3 heart surgeries from continuous drug use. Just thinking about that time crumbles me with exhaustion and dark sadness I have a different dad than my siblings (separate issue: deep survivor guilt over that) who I saw on the weekends, but still lived in hell 5 days a week until I was 18.
Back to my toxic building I lived in before and during the Pandemic. My therapist implored me to move but was already falling into a deep freeze mode then. I eventually got to a better neighborhood I absolutely love but I'm still next-level frozen and it's been a year here. My therapist says my nervous system is thawing out but HELLO....not rich and can't afford a leisurely vacation-style thaw out... meanwhile the bills and debt are piling up and I cannot handle the day to day task of finding a job. I worked in hospitality for so long and refuse to go back knowing full well it made C-PTSD infinitely worse....My friend suggested I attend Underearners Anonymous. I think there's some truth there. Have a degree, and am hardworking, and relativity capable but just feel so dead inside, weighed down by C-PTSD, survivor guilt, and work fatigue honestly. Worked myself into the ground in hospitality. It's also just hard to find a job these days!
Any advice or thoughts extremely welcomed!
Back to my toxic building I lived in before and during the Pandemic. My therapist implored me to move but was already falling into a deep freeze mode then. I eventually got to a better neighborhood I absolutely love but I'm still next-level frozen and it's been a year here. My therapist says my nervous system is thawing out but HELLO....not rich and can't afford a leisurely vacation-style thaw out... meanwhile the bills and debt are piling up and I cannot handle the day to day task of finding a job. I worked in hospitality for so long and refuse to go back knowing full well it made C-PTSD infinitely worse....My friend suggested I attend Underearners Anonymous. I think there's some truth there. Have a degree, and am hardworking, and relativity capable but just feel so dead inside, weighed down by C-PTSD, survivor guilt, and work fatigue honestly. Worked myself into the ground in hospitality. It's also just hard to find a job these days!
Any advice or thoughts extremely welcomed!