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A background to the situation:
My therapist said, in the session last week, that she isn't available for our usual time this week as she has a hospital appointment. But that she would email me options to rearrange. Perhaps having a session earlier in the day on thursday or on Wednesday.
This is in the context of my Dad dying and the funeral happening this week. An event we have spent some sessions talking about as family is complex and I didn't know if I was going or not or leaving or what. So a difficult week. And she knows is a big deal.
Anyway, she didn't email. I left it till today to ask if she is free. She didn't email back. Admittedly it was only a few hours but I needed to know as needed to work out my work schedule in response. So I emailed again.
She then responded to say that she was going to email me. That she is unwell with a throat infection and has lost her voice and is not working this week. And hopes she is next week. And if she gets better earlier than next Thursday and I want an earlier session, she will let me know.
I'm upset. And I'm torn.
And I don't know how to respond. She clearly is unwell with her hospital situation (she said it's a scan. And I don't know more than that). And now she has lost her voice. She is obviously needing time off. So I get it.
But I'm upset she hasn't even referenced the funeral. I know she wouldn't do therapy by email. But to not mention it seems remiss to me.
And I don't know how to handle it.
I'm trying to remain calm and logical and adult and sane. But also a part of me, that is growing the more I think about it, is getting disregulated and wants her to know that. Which is making me not know how to respond.
Do I respond simply saying "sorry to hear you're not well. Hope you feel better soon and see you next week". Which seems an adult thing to do. But also one that ignores my feelings.
Do I respond to say yes, and earlier session if she is well enough would be helpful as the funeral happened and it feels something that would be helpful to discuss earlier if possible" or something like that. Which seems adult, but also saying yep things are significant here?;
Or, what I think might be passive aggressive?? And respond saying I'll see her next week. This week has been difficult (has it been though? I don't know?) with the funeral yesterday.
.idk.
I'm very confused.
My therapist said, in the session last week, that she isn't available for our usual time this week as she has a hospital appointment. But that she would email me options to rearrange. Perhaps having a session earlier in the day on thursday or on Wednesday.
This is in the context of my Dad dying and the funeral happening this week. An event we have spent some sessions talking about as family is complex and I didn't know if I was going or not or leaving or what. So a difficult week. And she knows is a big deal.
Anyway, she didn't email. I left it till today to ask if she is free. She didn't email back. Admittedly it was only a few hours but I needed to know as needed to work out my work schedule in response. So I emailed again.
She then responded to say that she was going to email me. That she is unwell with a throat infection and has lost her voice and is not working this week. And hopes she is next week. And if she gets better earlier than next Thursday and I want an earlier session, she will let me know.
I'm upset. And I'm torn.
And I don't know how to respond. She clearly is unwell with her hospital situation (she said it's a scan. And I don't know more than that). And now she has lost her voice. She is obviously needing time off. So I get it.
But I'm upset she hasn't even referenced the funeral. I know she wouldn't do therapy by email. But to not mention it seems remiss to me.
And I don't know how to handle it.
I'm trying to remain calm and logical and adult and sane. But also a part of me, that is growing the more I think about it, is getting disregulated and wants her to know that. Which is making me not know how to respond.
Do I respond simply saying "sorry to hear you're not well. Hope you feel better soon and see you next week". Which seems an adult thing to do. But also one that ignores my feelings.
Do I respond to say yes, and earlier session if she is well enough would be helpful as the funeral happened and it feels something that would be helpful to discuss earlier if possible" or something like that. Which seems adult, but also saying yep things are significant here?;
Or, what I think might be passive aggressive?? And respond saying I'll see her next week. This week has been difficult (has it been though? I don't know?) with the funeral yesterday.
.idk.
I'm very confused.